A little advice from my heart to yours.
After a week
of teething and difficult nights, I decided this morning to go out for a solitary
coffee. No kids, no husband, just me and my books!
I’d be lying
if I said that I didn’t feel overwhelmed sometimes. Being with the three kids
EVERY DAY…ALL DAY is draining. Some days it’s the mess that gets to me, others it’s
the fighting, but usually it’s the noise that can get too much.
Don’t get me
wrong, my kids aren’t badly behaved (well…no more than the average kid). In
fact, I think they’re wonderful. They bring me so much joy! But we all need a
break every now and then!
As I was
walking down the road, to get to the café near my house, it was like seeing my
street in a completely new way! It was so nice to actually experience THAT
moment.
So often, as
a mum, you are busy checking you have everything for everyone, checking you
haven’t lost one of the kids, making sure everyone has been to the toilet,
eaten enough, as well as throwing in the occasional ‘educational’ tit-bit, that
you just don’t even have time to look around. There’s no time to Stop…Breathe…and
SEE what’s around you.
It was incredible
just looking at the people walking past, blissfully unaware of how ‘lucky’ they
are; not because they don’t have children … No, No, No! Lucky because that have
THIS MOMENT! So precious. So fleeting. If only they would Stop….Breathe…REFLECT!
"Verily!
In the creation of the heavens and the earth and the alternation of night and
day there are indeed ayat (proofs, evidences, verses, lessons, signs,
revelations, etc.) for men of understanding. Men who celebrate the praises of
Allah standing, sitting and lying down on their sides and contemplate the
(wonders of) creation in the heavens and the earth (with the thought):
"Our Lord! You have not created this without purpose! Glory to thee! Give
us salvation from the penalty of the fire."" Q3:190-1.
Whether
we have children to fill our time, or jobs, or academic studies, or whatever our
worries are, remember, Dear Busy Mum, this life is just here to occupy us. The
Dunya is here to give us our provisions, and to distract us from our true
purpose…Allah.
I
am as guilty as you, perhaps even more guilty, of forgetting my Lord and
busying myself too much with my ‘life.’
Dear
Busy Mum, stop rushing…stop thinking… stop…STOP!
Look at what is around you…BREATHE….REFLECT….ALHUMDULILLAH!
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Ah! I badly needed this! Thanks for sharing. Parenting can sometimes get very exhausting.
ReplyDeleteFatima
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I'm glad you found it uplifting. Thank you for your support :)
DeleteDear, I can relate to what you are going through. I long to go on a walk early in the morning after fajar Salah. Sometimes I just want to be alone to read or type a blog post uninterrepted! When I'm flustrated, I start counting my blessings. Things which we are flustrated about are things which others long for. Kids would grow up soon. Then, even if we want they will not stick to us like this. So, I decide to enjoy the mess, tantrums, noise and every thing else connected to my kids (Better smile than cry)
ReplyDeleteYes it's so true. We have to remind ourselves how blessed we are. Children are a blessing!
DeleteI do hope you are having better nights this week :)
ReplyDeleteThank you! It's a little better :)
DeleteOke, stop rushing…stop thinking… just hugged the children.
ReplyDeleteSo lovely... Mashaa Allah
Jazakillahu khayrun!
DeleteAs a homeschooling mum I understand this.
ReplyDeleteOh you homeschool too...mashAllah! Thank you for your support :)
DeleteI am not a homeschooling mum but I still get overwhelmed so can only imagine how it must be for you. Now that the youngest goes to nursery for a few hours I use that time for me and go to the gym or something!
ReplyDeleteLife certainly does get overwhelming with the little ones.
ReplyDeleteMy Aunt whose youngest is now 25 years always reminds me that being a mother is the toughest job on earth.
Keep it up... Breathe, Reflect and say Alhamdulillah.
Amina (youthlyhub.com)
I think this applies to all areas of life not just motherhood. Thanks for sharing. :)
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As someone who is thinking about homeschooling, I can't get around the fact that I won't get "me" time. Maybe I shouldn't worry about that too much because sisters like yourself have great resources and tips on how to deal with that. Jazakillaah khair
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Beautifully said - thank you. :-)
ReplyDelete~ Johleen from www.home-ed-life.com
Sometimes we need some me-time in order to get in touch with ourselves again. Thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to this. But it's true I can't even go shopping for myself anymore not just because I get diverted into the baby aisle but because the even bigger baby in my life (my husband) I have to shop for him too as he doesn't have the time to !
ReplyDeleteGreat reminder, it's sooo easy to forget to just breathe and appreciate the moment right before us.
ReplyDeleteAnd 'Just me and my books' - sign me up any day!!!! ✋
Totally agree with everything you've said here! We all need some me-time. It's part of being a good mom: you need to be healthy, both physically and emotionally, in order to take the best possible care of your kids! We have a tendency to forget ourselves, but then everyone suffers. Thanks for the reminder!
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